Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex – One of the Most Thorough Sex Manuals Ever!

Nina Hartley’s Awesome Sex Guide
First and foremost, I must admit that I am a sex book junkie. I love books, I love sex, and the marriage of the two, when done right, can send this self-proclaimed sex geek over the edge. It’s phenomenal. I could take a picture to display just a portion of the sex-related books and DVDs (yes, I own those too) I hoard, but you’d think I was a sex-a-holic. (Not to say I’m not, but if I am, I haven’t fully accepted it, so I’ll admit there’s a tiny bit of a chance I’m in denial.)

Either way, I happened upon Nina Hartley by way of an interesting conversation with a male friend of mine. He’s an open-minded sexually free spirit, so I tend to trust his opinion on these matters. When he mentioned her name, I was reminded of all the times I’ve leafed through a Playboy Store catalog or “window-shopped” sexual material on Amazon and totally skipped over her products. Considering our sexually wild kindred spirits, I decided to take his advice just a little and checked out Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex (a book, though he preferred DVD). Needless to say, I was not disappointed.

Quick Summary:

Nina Hartley, bisexual adult film star, discusses the ins and outs of sex for a general adult audience that desires to improve sexual knowledge and performance with a lover (or two – and maybe three or more at once) or by and for themselves. Chapters are broken down to discuss various sexual topics in a detailed, unhurried manner that aims to provide an exhaustive account of the subject that can enhance, refresh or enlighten the reader’s current knowledge.

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex: Candid Book Review
Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex was one of the most comprehensive and entertaining sex-related reads I’ve experienced in quite some time. Hartley and her co-author, I.S. Levine, clearly know how to describe and explain the sex goddess’ teachings in a manner that’s lighthearted, friendly and even comical at times.


* Unabashedly pro-sexual and liberating. A self-proclaimed “unabashed sexual liberationist,” Hartley encourages taking erotic responsibility for your “sexual actions and intentions,” which is empowering, especially if you’ve dealt with negative social and cultural conditioning about how sex and sexuality should be.

* Encourages “know thyself” beyond mirrors and masturbation. We’ve all gotten the proverbial suggestion to “look in the mirror and relate to your vagina” exercise, coupled with “masturbate often” as the primary path to discover your sexuality. There’s nothing wrong with this, however, the most powerful sex organ of all – your brain – is ignored. Hartley pushes beyond this helpful yet relatively superficial advice, and instructs you to candidly address your own sexual identity, as it’s “vital to establishing an erotic link with a compatible other.”

* Organized, entertaining and detailed. As a bisexual adult performer, Hartley literally writes from experience in an intelligent, candid manner that’s peppered with personal anecdotes and goes light on clich├ęs. Thoroughly written and detailed, GTS is over 350 pages, separated into 18 chapters that are broken down and organized into 3 sections: Basics (including orgasms, masturbation, foreplay, sexual positions and anal sex), Extras (toys, swinging, threesomes), and Options (BDSM – and each letter gets its own chapter). Makes for an interesting read – or coffee table accessory.


* Too much information for too general an audience. Though Hartley’s book provides an excellent resource for general audiences, I prefer specialized reads in most cases. It might have been useful for her to have three separate books- one book that’s for beginners and novices, another for intermediate lovers, and placed her extra kinky writings in an entirely separate book. Some of the information is at times too basic, and at others, too shocking, which, even if separated can throw the reader around.

* Not enough pictures. As a matter of fact, there really aren’t any pictures, which could break up the monotony of consistent (yet thoroughly engaging) text that comprises this 350 page sex manual. Then again, to be honest, I hate fuzzy black-and-white photographs; they make a book seem 10 years older than it really is.

Final Word: Nina Hartley’s Guide to Total Sex is almost an essential requirement for any sensual connoisseur’s bookshelf. Witty, honest, engaging, and informative, Hartley’s paperback provides a near perfect intersection of sexuality, education and intelligence that you cannot find so easily these days. While some chapters might be too hot for some precious eyes and ears, Guide to Total Sex is one of the most authoritative and trustworthy guides to human sexuality you could ever come across.

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Get Satisfaction From Your Sexual Experience With Sex Toys

All around the world, there will always be a handful of couples that have been left unsatisfied by their sexual partners. Others may also say that the occasional use of some sexy lingerie is no longer enough to ensure that their sex doesn’t get boring. The general consensus that regular love making is becoming dull has made sex toys such a valuable addition to a couples sex life.

So how does the use of adult toys like dildos or vibrators enhance someone’s sexual experience? As a relationship continues to progress, there is a tendency for the couples sex life to become boring because foreplay becomes more and more neglected. Essentially, some couples have chosen to press the fast-forward button of the sex, skipping the excitement that foreplay produces and diving to intercourse right away. The addition of sex toys to the sexual experience gifts the couple with the “spice” and passion that they may be losing.

Sex toys generally provide more playfulness and pleasure to the entire sexual experience. For example, the simple use of a vibrator can make sex more enjoyable for the woman as it prepares her for actual intercourse. The simple knowledge that you are pleasuring your partner is also something that a man will enjoy. When a couple uses sex toys together, it also has a tendency to make intercourse more intimate and thus helping the couple grow closer in other aspects of their relationship.

Sex dolls, vibrators, dildos and any other kind of sex toy imaginable were all made for the sole purpose of heightening pleasure and giving the user a greater orgasmic experience than that of regular masturbation. So, if you’re looking for a way to add more spice to your sexual life, taking a trip to the sex store such as Temptations Direct should be on your agenda.

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Things To Know About Adult Affiliate Marketing

Adult affiliate marketing is targeted to a specific niche market of the adult entertainment industry. If you choose to sign up for one of these programs, your job will usually involve setting up a web site or promotional page designed for the purpose of getting visitors to sign up at one or more erotic membership sites.

The adult entertainment industry is a huge market, so the potential to make a lot of money from running an affiliate program based around adult-related keywords is big as well.

One of the things that marketers often due to generate traffic is to establish a thoroughly optimized web site or blog based around a particular niche of the porn industry. Pages are enhanced with tantalizing images or videos that when clicked on lead to a particular membership site, directed with your own referral ID to ensure that you receive commission for any sign-ups.

Depending on the way you market your site, you could make a reasonable amount of money from it. Some people make a full time living out of selling affiliate products targeted to an adult audience.

Not all adult affiliate programs are based around membership sites. For example, sex toys are a hot commodity in online marketplaces, and many affiliates design their own promotional campaigns to direct customers to online sex stores selling a variety of toys.

Exploiting human interest in sex to set up a successful affiliate campaign is within your reach if you are motivated enough to achieve your goals and succeed within this interesting niche.

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A Guide To Online Adult Sex Stores

There are a lot of people that have never been to an adult sex store but they would like to visit one and invest in a sexual toy. There are some people that have been to this style of shop before but they are looking to revisit and invest in a new item to give them pleasure. Before you head off to one of these stores it is important to bear in mind that there is both advantages and disadvantages of purchasing that desired item online.

The online shops are in a position to offer a range of different special offers. The positive aspects of online shops is that they are able to offer better deals and there is also a range of money saving coupons that will be available. It is very uncommon to get good deals in the local high street stores and in most cases the items will cost you a considerable amount more than it would online. Another positive aspect of shopping online is that you can do it in privacy as no one else knows you are shopping in the store and no-one will know what you are purchasing.

It is very important to take time to conduct some research into the items that are available as this will mean that you do not waste your money on an item that is not actually that good. If you are going to purchase a vibrator it is very important that you know what is available so that you can purchase one that will hit the correct spot for you.

It is great to do the shopping from the comfort of your own home and this gives you complete privacy as no-one will know what you are buying and who you are. Shopping for your sex toy online also allows you to open up to your partner and express your feelings. If you make a joint decision and get a sex toy that you both like this will enable you to create a special atmosphere within the body.

Almost all of the online sex stores offer the facility to return items where as local stores in most cases will not allow this. This returns policy is another good reason for shopping online for your sex toy. It can be annoying having to take the time to return the item but this is much better than having faulty item that is really no use.

There is really one main disadvantage when it comes to purchasing your sex toys online and this is that it is hard to handle the item and see exactly how it works. One of the most important things about vibrators is the intensity that it is able to offer. Nowadays there is some video clips on the online shops and these show the working item and give you an idea of what it is like.

It is good idea to purchase a sex toy from the comfort of your home as it will enable you to check the prices and make comparisons. The online sites will also make it possible for your to read reviews which have been written by other customers.

It can be very easy to select products from online sites and it is important to take time to look at various products before making a final decision. It is important to take time to find out how all the different items work as this means that you are able to make an informed decision.

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What Do Your Sex Dreams Really Mean?

At some point, we’ve all had a sexual dream. Whether your dream was exotic and wild, strange and unsettling or gentle and romantic, there’s a reason why you had this particular dream at this particular time.

“Sexual dreams reveal your desires and anxieties,” says Gillian Holloway, PhD, author of Erotic Dreams. “Your subconscious uses these raw, lustful situations to sort out emotions you may not be confronting in waking life.” Sure, maybe you already know dreams serve as a portal to your psyche, but you might not realize how obscure their implications can be.

Often sexual dreams are just a medium to understand one’s inner self, desire or even passion, which is absent from the conscious level of the mind due to external factors such as suppression. In our society the skewed outlook on matters of sex makes it a taboo topic for discussion.

Sexual dreams may be a means to compensate for what is lacking in real life. To take an example, there was a saint who had renounced everything, followed austerity and shunned women. He started having recurring erotic dreams and was confused at his response. A closer look by a counsellor revealed that this was his way of balancing his inner and outer self. The dreams in question were his way to fulfil his sexual needs and yet manage to follow celibacy in real life. Applying morality to dreams would be, of course, unfair.

These types of dreams can also provide the dreamer with a neutral space where she can go beyond her inhibitions and overcome her fears regarding sex or certain behaviours. Certain behavioural change that a person is skeptical about adopting in waking life will sometimes manifest in dreams, and in most cases is a precursor to, or sign for, changes to follow.

Sexual dreams are rarely literal. Though you might hope that last night’s dream of you and Drew Barrymore was a precognitive dream, a view of future events, it probably isn’t. Sex dreams, and most dreams for that matter, are metaphors, or perhaps similes, and highly symbolic. They give you a picture, an image, of what a situation is like or can be compared to. If, in your dream, you are feeling pressured to have sex, take a look at your waking life and see where you are feeling pressured or by whom.

You need to remember that dreams should be understood in their context. If a person dreams of having sex in a car, it might imply that he wants to own the car-sex becomes a symbol for ownership. If a dreamer dreams of making love to a stranger in an unfamiliar place, this may be suggesting that she is looking for something new to be introduced into her relationship, or that she is estranged from her own sexuality.

The way the dream made you feel and its correlation with some incident in your recent past will aid in understanding it and its message.

Sex dreams are as common and natural as the physical sexual act. Such dreams shouldn’t disturb us, but rather they should be seen as a call for introspection and a deeper look at what’s being re-presented. Dreams always come in service of our greater good, at a time when the subject of the dream needs to be addressed. Dreams are our very own, private therapists. And they don’t cost us a dime.

Terry L. Gillis, a.k.a The Dream Lady, invites you to visit her comprehensive mind and dreaming site at [] Take your time and explore all that the site has to offer: visit the library, read the most recent articles, subscribe to the free monthly newsletter, The Nocturnal Times, and much more.

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